Dorcheser drop-in group recently spent time discussing meeting up and getting on well in a group. They worked together and complied some tips for adults with autism.

Tips complied by Dorchester drop-in group.

Arranging a meet up

  • Ask others if they want to meet up (face to face, Facebook, email, text, phone)
  • Decide on a venue
  • Set a time
  • Remember to always let people know if you can or can’t make it
  • Don’t put pressure on others to attend
  • Perhaps make arrangements with one person first and then together spread the invite
  • Arrange to meet outside a venue if you don’t want to walk in alone (or travel together)
  • If there is someone new to the group make sure you introduce and include them

Possible activities - It is often easier to have an activity to take the pressure off making conversation. Suggested activities:

  • Cinema
  • Pub Games (skittles alley, darts, pool)
  • Bowling
  • Library/Book Club
  • Walking
  • Swimming
  • Shopping
  • Gym or exercise class
  • Crafts 
  • Art/Language class
  • Church
  • National Trust places
  • Museum visits

NB: Some of these activities can be expensive

Conversation ‘Do’s’ & ‘Don’ts – Talking in a group can be tricky. Conversation suggestions:

  • Appropriate volume and tone – not too loud, not too quiet
  • Be cautious about swearing, it can be offensive
  • Appropriate topics – nothing too personal, start with small talk ‘Do you come here much?’, the weather
  • Listen and show interest to others to keep chat going
  • Encourage others to join the conversation, especially if they are being quiet 
  • Try not to interrupt or talk over others
  • Try and join in with related subjects or to change the subject lead with ‘to change the subject…’
  • Topics often best avoided are politics, religion or even which football team you support

Personal Space - Try to be aware of other peoples personal space

  • This can be physical, how close you stand or sit next to someone
  • This can also be communication, lots of texts and calls can be intimidating

During the session the group also discussed traffic light systems for feelings and fun topics for conversations.

Find out more about drop-in groups 

Categories: Advocacy, Awareness, For adults with autism, For parents and carers, For professionals
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